Facilitators


SUPPORT GROUP SCREEN SESSIONS

Beginning October, 1st 2018

 

These “mastermind” workshops are offered via live video conference format with an instructor.

The group meets once a week for one hour and the size of the group is six to eight members comprising the ideal combination of the 16 personality types to best interact with one another to support and encourage understanding and diversity of ideas towards making progress for each of the members in achieving their relationship goals.

The cost of enrollment is $150.00 for the six weeks and sessions begin July 1st, 2018.

Video conferences are live workshops that are given over the internet where you can interact with the instructor and the other team members. Video conferences are a great way to learn, because you can learn from the convenience of your home or office.

Optional telephone dial-in access. If you don’t have a camera and microphone on your computer, or you’ll be away from your computer during a class, you can dial into the class via phone.

The live class sessions will be recorded, so if you miss a session, you will be able to download the audio recording of the class and listen to it at your leisure. Class recordings are generally made available within 24 hours of the class date.

 

As you brainstorm with other group members, you are looking for people who will:

 

1. Challenge you by expanding your mind and not accepting your excuses

 

2. Complement (aka brings a missing strength) the group and supports the group.

 

3. Keep it 100% real—telling you the truth while still compassionately holding a vision of your highest best self.

 

4. Hold you accountable—showing up for you and believing in you even when you don’t want to show up for or believe in yourself

 

  • Specific (simple, sensible, significant).

  • Measurable (meaningful, motivating).

  • Achievable (agreed, attainable).

  • Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).

  • Time bound (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).

SMARTMATCH SUPPORT GROUPS

We'll expand on definitions to explore how to create, develop and achieve your relationship goals:

1. Specific

Your goal should be clear and specific, otherwise you won't be able to focus your efforts or feel truly motivated to achieve it.

2. Measurable

It's important to have measurable goals, so that you can track your progress and stay motivated. Assessing progress helps you to stay focused and feel the excitement of getting closer to achieving your goal.

3. Achievable

Your goal also needs to be realistic and attainable to be successful. In other words, it should stretch your abilities but still remain possible. When you set an achievable goal, you may be able to identify previously overlooked opportunities or resources that can bring you closer to it.

4. Relevant

This step is about ensuring that your goal matters to you, and that it also aligns with other relevant goals. We all need support and assistance in achieving our goals, but it's important to retain control over them. So, make sure that your plans drive everyone forward, but that you're still responsible for achieving your own goal.

5. Time-bound

Every goal needs a target date, so that you have a deadline to focus on and something to work toward. This part of the SMART goal criteria helps to prevent everyday tasks from taking priority over your longer-term goals.

Using Empathy Effectively

To start using empathy more effectively, consider the following:

1. Put aside your viewpoint, and try to see things from the other person's point of view.

When you do this, you'll realize that other people most likely aren't being evil, unkind, stubborn, or unreasonable – they're probably just reacting to the situation with the knowledge they have.

2. Validate the other person's perspective.

Once you "see" why others believe what they believe, acknowledge it. Remember: acknowledgement does not always equal agreement. You can accept that people have different opinions from your own, and that they may have good reason to hold those opinions.

3. Examine your attitude.

Are you more concerned with getting your way, winning, or being right? Or, is your priority to find a solution, build relationships, and accept others? Without an open mind and attitude, you probably won't have enough room for empathy.

4. Listen.

Listen  to the entire message that the other person is trying to communicate.

    • Listen with your ears – what is being said, and what tone is being used?

    • Listen with your eyes – what is the person doing with his or her body while speaking?

    • Listen with your instincts – do you sense that the person is not communicating something important?

    • Listen with your heart – what do you think the other person feels?

5. Ask what the other person would do.

When in doubt, ask  the person to explain his or her position. This is probably the simplest, and most direct, way to understand the other person. However, it's probably the least used way to develop empathy.

It's fine if you ask what the other person wants: you don't earn any "bonus points" for figuring it out on your own.

Practice these skills when you interact with people. You'll likely appear much more caring and approachable – simply because you increase your interest in what others think, feel, and experience. It's a great gift to be willing and able to see the world from a variety of perspectives – and it's a gift that you can use all of the time, in any situation.